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Suicide

Death by suicide is often accompanied by many stigmas, misconception, and a lot of difficult questions. Why did someone do this? Could I have stopped it? Why, could and should have are often at the heart of grief when someone dies in this way. Suicide can be very disempowering and hurtful for those left behind. Because of all the stigmas and misconceptions about suicide, it can be very helpful to get educated about suicide. Sometimes the best way to answer a question is to seek the answer from those who have been there and understand. Unfortunately, there are not often answers for your particular questions. Death to suicide can happen because of mental health or other painful life conditions, like job loss, shame, health changes, loss of identity, a lack of purpose, or other contributing variables. Blame, anger, and other intense feelings can surround your grief. That is normal and okay. You are entitled to all of your feelings, but do not hold them all in and find someone to talk about them with.

Here are some things to consider:

  1. Don’t go it alone – build a reliable support system that you trust and who cares about supporting you throughout your grief
  2. Identify good listeners so you can process your questions, thoughts, and feelings with others
  3. Find other survivors who understand your questions and the stigmas you may face grieving this type of loss
  4. Tell the truth to those who need to know, especially children
  5. You don’t have to be ashamed. While suicide is hard and there are often complicated factors, 90% of people who complete suicide have a biological or physiological ailment

Additional Resources

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

AFSP: Returning to School After a Suicide Loss: For Younger Children